Guys

[comfyfeet]

Sorry, I was just wondering how many guys are on or lurk on this site?
Come on fess up.

Personally I think its great that you are trying to learn and understand. I'm sure it has made a massive difference and it means a lot to your lady.

[tessa36]

not half as many that should do.

[leon garrity]

just want to say by me joining this site it has given me an insite to this disease and also an insite to the **** you ladies go through with this disease, i can never uderstand or even pretend to understand what you all go through but it has opened my eyes no end, and also by making me want to be a better human being to every1 i know my kids, family friends and most of all to the person i hold in my heart, caroline whom i love so very much.

[tessa36]

maybe you could find a way to spread the word from your experience and new point of view!

[leon garrity]

well some of us understand and some understand way too late im one of the latter type men, i think its a disease what affects you botheven though the lady is the one who has it, you both live with its dibilitating affects on a relationship.

[tessa36]

oh it certainly does hunni- it affects the victim and all those around them. please search for post subject "this made me cry" and you will read a letter that someone wrote about the whole perspective

[Moonchildhippy71]

well some of us understand and some understand way too late im one of the latter type men, i think its a disease what affects you botheven though the lady is the one who has it, you both live with its dibilitating affects on a relationship.

Yep I agree Leon, I'm a former carer to my now ex husband, he has MS , we remain friends however. It just got to a point where providing care 24/7 -365 was too much for me with little help from his family, and having to rely on care agencies funded by Social Services. In the end I was too exhausted to carry on, we mutually agreed to separate, and he has live in agency care workers.

Moving on to last year I'd "met" my boyfriend online in Dec '06, and it was in April'07 I plucked up the courage to meet him in person. It was shortly after our relationship became sexual my gynae probs came to light, a cyst was detected on a smear test in Jan '07, but my doctor didn't seem too worried by it as it wasn't causing problems at this time. I think it's unfortunate that these gynae probs came to light shortly after we became really serious and the relationship became sexual . My boiyfriend seems to blame himself for "Breaking" me, but I think it was a case of s**t happens.

My wonderful boyfriend has travelled down from Warwickshire to be with me at hospital appointments, and look after me following a recent laparascopy and hysteroscopy, he's listened to me at 4.45am when I couldn't sleep due to stressing out over a hospital appointment, or I've been ranting on about insensitive or useless doctors I'm due back for a follow up nexy week, and the gynaecologist is reccommending a Mirena c**l , and he's read up views from other women who have used the Mirena, and he agrees with me that it would be a bad idea. I just want to get to the bottom of what's causing this pain/ prolonged bleeding, and at least manage it , so that I can get on with planning my move up to Warwickshire

[moody mare]

Since finding the site a short while ago my soon to be hubby has been lurking!!! Think it`s given him a greater understanding of my life and why I am the way I am.

[Harlequin]

I must admit its "nice" to realise I'm not the only bloke who sometimes thinks "what did I do". When all is said and done though, she probably supports me more than I her She's my rock, and I'd be lost without her, so the odd bit of abuse is a small price to pay

[tessa36]

Leon doesn't visit this site anymore-
he and his girlfriend, Knotty, who was as good as a permenant resident on here (bless her cotton socks) had split up the last time we heard from her.
She then dissappeared from the site altogether after telling us she could no longer access the internet, even from a library.
He stopped visiting way before then.
Such a pity because they were a very devoted couple to each other at one time.

[fortyniner]

I am a new male member (that sounds rude - sorry about that) who's partner is a sufferer.

We have been living together for a year now and the condition has slowly got worse again (she had surgery for it about 6 or 7 years ago).

I am trying to find out as much as possible about it, have gone to the Gynae clinics with her, hugged when it hurt, supplied wheat bags and ot water bottles and even taken her to A&E when the pain was so bad that I found her crying. I wish there was more I could do for her, but apart from supporting her, caring for her and looking after her I am at a loss what else to do.

She puts a brave face on it but I know that the fact that she is going in for sugery again in a few months is scaring her silly, she doesn't like hospitals at the best of times. I'll be there for her though, after all I love her and although we are not married "in sickness and in health" applies just as much as if we were.

[tessa36]

thats really sweet of you 49er!
I'm sure that she appreciates the support you are giving her and to view this relationship as a run for the I do for the rest of your life that is really touching.