If you have been told 'it's all in your head' - you may find this very interesting.
I am currently seeing a counsellor because I am finding it hard to deal with endo and drug side effects at the minute. So, last week we were talking and she came up with the old, 'your pain is in your head, and you can control it'. Being naturally inquisitive and ready for a fight, I asked her to explain herself. She said:
"Pain is only felt in the brain because that is where the pain receptors are. Pain isn't where the problem (in our case endo) is located, it is a messgae sent from that location to your brain, and your brain turns it into pain. What you need to do is when in pain, breathe deeply and think to yourself my brain is saying I hurt but there is no pain in my brain, and this will stop the pain"
I then asked, so when I am rolling round the floor with my back arched, kicking and lashing out and nearly passing out in pain - how do I do this? She looked blank. I then made her listen to the level of pain we suffer - to the extent of being in agony due to vibrations of people walking past. And asked her again - how do I do this at this level of pain?
She started to back track and say, well it works with the help of pain killers. It just lowers your level of pain so you don't need to take such high doses.
I then queried - well, don't pain killers block the pain recepters in your brain that receive messages from my body that it is in pain? Thus it is the pain killers making this work and not 'mind over matter'.
We promptly changed the subject.